Love should never hurt. But sometimes it does:

 

If you are – or have been – in a relationship where you were mistreated, it’s very easy to blame yourself. The problem is with the abuser, though, not you. It’s not your fault! Anyone can be abused – boys and girls, men and women, gay or straight, young and old – and anyone can become an abuser.

Break the Silence: Stop the Violence

Source: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)

It may shock you to know that one out of every eleven teens reports being hit or physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the past twelve months. But why is that, and how can we change it? In “Break The Silence: Stop the Violence,” parents talk with teens about developing healthy, respectful relationships before they start dating.

 

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Abuse doesn’t happen because you did something wrong, or weren’t smart enough or strong enough. Give yourself a break: remember that you probably did the best you could at the time, and now you’re learning how to be safe, healthy, and happy in your relationships.

In any intimate relationship, ask yourself:

 

If you answer yes to any of these questions, you may be in a relationship that isn’t good for you. The good news is you can stop dating abuse.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Remember, you didn’t do anything wrong, and you’re not the problem. Talk with someone you’re comfortable with. Call a hotline (see below). If you ever feel that you’re in immediate danger, get away and call 911.

Stay Safe

 

Resources for help

 

Remember, you deserve healthy, happy relationships. Abuse of any type is never okay.