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Sex vs.
Love
Love
and sex are NOT the same thing. Love is an emotion or a feeling. There is no
one definition of love because
the word "love" can
mean many different things to many
different people. Sex, on the other
hand, is a biological event. Even
though there are different kinds of sex, most sexual acts have
certain things in common. Sex may or may not include penetration.
Differences Between Love and Sex
Love
- Love
is a feeling (emotional).
- There
is no exact "right" definition
of love for everybody.
- Love
involves feelings of romance and/or
attraction.
Sex
- Sex
is an event or act (physical).
- There
are different kinds of sex but
all kinds of sex have some things
in common.
- Can
happen between a male and a female,
between two females, between two
males, or by one's self (masturbation)
Abstinence
The word for not having sex is called
abstinence. Some people, especially people who think it's not
cool to wait to have sex, think that abstinence is a completely
bad thing. Actually, there are some really good things about abstinence
and some of them might apply to you.
- Abstinence,
or not having oral, vaginal or
anal sex, is the best way to protect
yourself. It is possible to get
an STI even without having intercourse
(penetrative sex) through skin-to-skin
contact (herpes and genital warts
can be passed this way).
- You
also have to think about your own
personal values and feelings. Your
teenage years bring a lot of changes
in how you feel about yourself,
family, friends and potential love
interests--even if you don't think
about sex. No matter what your
feelings on sex are, it may be
smart to wait until something "feels
right."
Ways to
Express Love Without Sex
There are millions of nonsexual ways
to show someone you like them. You
can show a person you care for them by spending time with them.
Go to the movies. Or just hang out and talk. If you are with
someone you really like, then anything can be fun. There are
other ways to feel physically close without having sex. These
ways include everything from kissing and hugging to touching
and petting each other. Just remember that if you're not careful
these activities can lead to sex. Plan beforehand just how far
you want to go, and stick to your limits. It can be difficult
to say NO and mean it when things get hot and heavy.
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